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by Webmaster | Feb 21, 2023

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About a year ago (as you may already know) I had About a year ago (as you may already know) I had an emotional breakdown / spiritual awakening after a psych concluded I was burnt out.

I eventually succumbed to taking some time off and attempted to approach self-care in the way it was recommended to me by professionals and literature.

Long walks, hot baths, yada yada yada

I was waiting to experience what was commonly experienced in my type of situation - lethargy, apathy, exhaustion and waving a white flag.. but... that... didn’t... happen.

Months later I started to reflect on this period trying to understand what EXACTLY was going through my mind?

If I were to take off all the ‘politically correct’ layers, what was at the CORE of why I felt the way I did?

And that’s how the Burnout Trinity was formed which I explore in my latest episode of my podcast (link in bio)

If you don’t have time to listen - here’s a quick summary:

#1 F*&K
For high-achievers, having break or take a few days off when feeling burnt out is like taking away soother from a grumpy kid - you are taking away our lifeline. We do not feel sad, or despondent, we are pissed.

#2 FEAR
Catastrophising goes into overdrive. We equate burnout (and the possibility of having to take a break) with evidence that we will never be able to catch up and achieve what we want to achieve.

#3 THE FAÇADE
✅ On the outside - cool, calm and collected.
❌ On the inside - WWIII.
Because admitting burnout is the equivalent of saying “I can’t” - so deny, deny, deny.

Hope you enjoy the podcast!

DrK xoxo

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Yesterday I dealt with a situation in a way I wasn Yesterday I dealt with a situation in a way I wasn’t proud of. 👉🏻Cue mentally repeating what I said over, and over, and over.

I go to bed exhausted... and of course, as soon as I lay my head down on the pillow and switch off the lights, I have the energy of 10 thousand suns, fuelled by those thoughts... again.

I finally get to sleep and then at 11:30pm, someone decides to host a rave using their new boombox car speakers next to my window. I talk myself out of committing first degree murder. Yay! More annoying thoughts 🙄.

While we do not have 80,000-100,000* thoughts (a myth) and more like 6,200 - might as well make those thoughts useful, eh?

I learned a technique whilst in therapy 15 years ago - using a trigger word to get back in control of my thoughts - and thought I would share in case it was helpful for you too.

K x

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* Re myth: if interested, check out the 2020 research study that blew this myth out of the water by uncovering ‘thought worms’ using a method that can detect when one thought ends and another one begins.
How are you with conflict? What about saying “No How are you with conflict? What about saying “No”? Or my personal favourite - someone saying “I’m so disappointed in you” 😳 😱 #deargodhavemercy

It got me thinking about the word “selfish” which often has negative connotations… but for people pleasers, it might be just the fix that’s needed. Here’s why (explained in video) 🎥

DrK x

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Getting attention from someone in authority, is li Getting attention from someone in authority, is like a drug. You don’t think straight and you make excuses for every choice you make.

For example, during this period I lied continuously to my best friend (who I lived with) to hide my secret relationship.

And while yes, I did feel a sigh of relief when the penny dropped ~20yrs later that ‘it wasn’t all my fault’, this post isn’t about past mistakes or blame, but rather, to have an honest conversation about how wanting someone to make you feel significant can be like a drug.

Perhaps, you might be reading this whilst on the couch or out with friends, and you too have that longing to be noticed by someone at work, at your local coffee shop or the gym.

If so - a question for you to to chew on - is the pursuit of this attention truly serving you? Or is it only feeding a hunger that will never be satisfied?

Written only with kindness, DrK x

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"I just don't feel like myself" - something is off "I just don't feel like myself" - something is off but you can’t put your finger on it. Sometimes it even feels you’re drowning but you get a breath of air now and again and you think “it’s not that bad”… and then boom, you’re back down again. 

I get it. Like pretending to adore a job that everyone would kill for yet secretly you feel dead inside and want to run away from everything and move back in with your dad at the age of 44 and sleep for a month after throwing your phone off a bridge while yelling “FK YOU ALL!”

Yep. That was me. Exhausting and TBH - a big waste of time for nothing.

Life is a heck of a lot easier without a mask on. 

Sure - there are social courtesies to consider, but I’ve talked to many people who are just so exhausted playing the part of a emotionally-balanced motivated mom that hasn’t eaten a carb since 1994, that never picks her shellac nails off and doesn’t have a secret love of tweezing chin hairs.

So here are the 10 crucial signs that find pop up when we avoid 'just being ourselves'.

Dr K x

PS If you're interested to dig in more - head over to my latest podcast so you can lift a bit of the weight of expectations off your shoulders and drop the mask. Link in bio. 

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