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Self-worth, Confidence & Self-Esteem: What’s the difference?
Is this article for you? If you're a 'knowledge is power' kinda person who loves finding ways to better understand yourself, you're gonna love today's newsletter. Read on my curious cat, read on.Self-respect - isn't it just the same as self-confidence and self-esteem?...
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Self-worth, Confidence & Self-Esteem: What’s the difference?
Is this article for you? If you're a 'knowledge is power' kinda person who loves finding ways to better understand yourself, you're gonna love today's newsletter. Read on my curious cat, read on.Self-respect - isn't it just the same as self-confidence and self-esteem?...
Gut Instincts vs. Overthinking: Finding the Right Balance
In last week's article I spoke about why focusing on your outlook for 2024, rather than the outcomes you're trying to achieve, is better for... well, your sanity. I suggested to choose a word (or phrase) that acts kind of like a 'filter' over your eyes, helping you...
My approach to New Year’s Resolutions (and why it works)
I know this is going to sound really, really weird but for several years my New Year's resolution was to moisturise my legs and arms. Because flakey skin just ain't in. So I would put moisturiser by my bedside, next to the shower, etc. But the problem was: #1 I don't...
Top Holiday Tips for Surviving Life’s Highs and Lows
Holidays. I must admit - Christmas is always a bit of a tough time for me being away from my family and my home(s) (Canada, New York & New Jersey). I always celebrate Christmas with my mom's side of the family. We celebrate on the 24th - the European way. We're...
5 tips to preserve your sanity over the holiday break
If you're lucky enough to have a holiday break this year, the question is, will it actually feel like a break? Or will it feel like day after day of frustrating family time and telling yourself 'tomorrow I'll get back to my healthy routine'?SHOULD YOU KEEP READING? If...
A midlife crisis can fuel positive change
A midlife crisis can serve as a make or break for significant personal and professional growth. But if you’re a high-achieving people-pleaser, does this apply to you too? Find out more.
The Perfect Moment Syndrome
Does your role affect your identity? In this article, I explore why it’s important to consider how our roles and perceptions of others’ impressions affect us and what we can do to protect our self-esteem.
Beyond the Title: Don’t Let Your Job Define Your Value
Does your role affect your identity? In this article, I explore why it’s important to consider how our roles and perceptions of others’ impressions affect us and what we can do to protect our self-esteem.
The reactions of others: a trap for our self-esteem
Is who you are shaped by the opinions and expectations of others? or are you really you? In this four-part article series, we’ll discuss how our life’s experiences affect who we think we are in contrast to who we really are. Each article will also include optional exercises for you to dig a bit deeper.
Here’s when you should care what other people think of you.
Summary: Imagine a world where you could live your life without worrying about what other people think. Where you could pursue your passions, take risks, and be authentically yourself without fear of judgment. It may sound too good to be true, but it's possible - and...
The Happiness Paradox: why doing everything yourself actually makes you unhappy
Summary: “No, don’t worry - I can do it”. Guilty as charged. While we all like to be self-directed and autonomous, it begs the question: how happy is a lone wolf? In this blog I share a simple way to remember what social support actually is (T.E.A.) and a short but...
To think or to feel: which is more important? (And why should we care?)
Summary: Could you explain, with precision and specificity – exactly what you were thinking and feeling when you were last under pressure? At its core, self-awareness is the only way to self-correct. In this article I break down exactly what thoughts and feelings are,...
Mistakes are what we do, not who we are: how to banish the “Mistake Mindset”
Summary: Have you ever made a mistake? Likely. But in my experience, when women make a mistake – we don’t say ‘whoops, I won’t do that again’, we think we are a mistake. In this article I speak about what I call the “Mistake Mindset”, five ways it shows up and a guide...
If you respect me, pay me (because we can’t help you if we’re broke)
Excerpt: I know I’m not the only woman that has a weird relationship with asking for money. But if we want to be respected by others, first we need to learn how to respect ourselves… including, asking for compensation for our time, effort and experience. In this...
Why high heels are more than *just* sex & power (at least for me)
A quick warning – this article discusses suicidal ideation and disordered eating. Please use care before reading. I own approximately 70 pairs of high heels, this after culling circa 50 pairs only a few months ago. Some are super-duper high, some are more casual and...
“Why is it so hard to change?” – explained.
Jay Z (Shawn Carter), at only 12 years of age, shot his older brother after he stole one of his rings. The theft was due to being addicted to crack cocaine and needing a hit. "Saw the devil in your eyes, high off more than weed, confused, I just closed my young eyes...
When quitting is the right choice.
I told myself that if I wasn’t successful by 40, I’d quit. I quit when I was 43. Oh, you thought this was going to be about how ‘not’ to quit, right? A motivational manifesto about grit, perseverance and drive? Nope. Because while that might work for some people, for...
The Avoidance Mindset: keeps you safe but gets you nowhere fast.
A call from that 'certain someone' pops up on your phone. What's your response? Fear? Dread? Anger? Anxiety? Do you tend to avoid the call by swiping it away and letting it go to voicemail? Hey, these things can be solved later over email, right? Ahhh… the lure of...
Three ways to prioritise you (but it’s not what you think)
You already know you need to do more self-care - that ain’t rocket science. You already know you need to better manage stress - you’re not from Mars. You already know you need more shoes - because you’re only human. Ok, that last one was a stretch, but I truly believe...
5 tips to become *better* at networking
Picture this. You’re at a networking event. The grazing board is a hit. The conversation is flowing. The buzz is buzzing. And in walks… her.Oh you know exactly who I’m talking about. She’s got sass. She’s got style. She’s got her $hit together. Is she even human?...
How to let go of things that don’t serve you (and learn from them, too).
How to look ahead to a bright future while learning from the storms of the past.
Afraid of conflict? Me too. Here’s how to make difficult conversations a little less difficult.
Does the following sound familiar? Me, in an argument: *blabbers* *presents one average point* Me, reflecting in the shower on how I could have answered: *eloquent presentation with multiple points all backed by peer reviewed articles*It does to me, big time. While...
It’s 7 days into the New Year’s Resolutions: here’s how to make them stick.
On January 1st of each year, most of us make a resolution to be a better version of ourselves. Whether it’s to resolve our health, our jobs, our relationships or our shopping addictions, by January 2nd, most of us are back to where we started (hello shoe sales!). In...
Three ways to feel better about failure.
Whether you’re building a new business, nurturing a complex relationship, half way through a degree or at the start of a new health regimen - ‘screw this’ would have passed your mind at least once 300 times. Indeed, giving up is incredibly enticing, especially when...
Here’s what to do when you feel small in a big world.
This year marked the 75th anniversary of the United Nations Associations of Australia, a celebration which I was very honoured to attend. Of the many eye-opening speakers, it was Grace Forrest’s heart-felt speech that hit home for me. “For every 130 girls or women on...