My Approach

my story

I’ve listened to hundreds of people and learned each has a powerful story to tell.

Some stories were heartbreaking, others were painful, and others were horrific. While each story was different, one similarity rung true:

We think our problems will go away if we’re beautiful.

If I’ve learned anything from my personal experiences, over a decade of academia and hundreds of hours working with my clients and students, it’s that:

Our appearance is only the tip of the iceberg to the real problems we face.

My students and clients often hold a tremendous amount of shame, and it is this shame, rather than their weight or appearance, that holds them back from living the life they’ve always wanted to live.

Sure, changing what we eat and how much we move will influence how our body looks and feels, which is important.

News flash: that isn’t rocket science.

So of course, stuffing kale into our smoothies and doing squats might change the way we look, but it won’t result in miracles.

What we need to understand is that our bodies and minds are much more complicated than that.

So if you are one of the millions of people chasing the solution for long-term success, here’s what you need to understand:

Our body is the sum and reflection of multiple factors.
Start reconnecting with ALL of them.

the process

Step 1: Embrace your shame and learn from it

The weight of guilt and shame from our past can hold us back from personal growth, but that doesn’t mean we should dismiss it as useless. Learning how we have grown to our current state can help us become who we want to be.

Step 2: Re-write your story

Just like we can put down a novel that isn’t making us happy, we can do the same with ourselves. After learning from our past and present, we can rewrite the future of our lives.

Step 3: Train your brain and build your confidence

The research on neuroplasticity is endless; we can indeed re-wire our brains. But, you’re probably thinking, where should I start? Using The Forever Approach, you can dissect your life into 7 areas and see where you need to focus for immediate and maximum growth. You can download my FREE guide here.

Step 4: Life-long refinement

Just like an athlete must constantly practice his skills for continual growth and betterment, we too must always be refining and training our abilities if we expect to better our lives. I believe the day you stop learning is the day you stop growing.

The 7-Pillar Forever Approach

I’ve created a science-backed, multidimensional plan of my own which will help you understand where and what to look for so you can free yourself from everything that’s holding you back from being amazing.

The Forever Approach is so much more than what you eat and how you exercise. It is the full integration of your physical, mental and emotional wellbeing. When these areas begin aligning and functioning seamlessly together, we start to connect with what is really going on inside and how we feel deep down.

Once we discover a deep connection with ourselves and start experiencing balance across the many aspects of our lives, we find that we no longer need to rely on food and unhealthy habits for comfort, safety, stimulation or reward.

The Forever Approach takes into account seven factors that need to be addressed in order to transform our lives for good:

1. Nutrition

It’s no surprise that diet and nutrition have tremendous effects on our moods. Countless studies have confirmed that certain nutrients can ease depression, reduce anxiety and improve long-term happiness.

The food-mood connection can be seen on the other end of the spectrum, too. My clients frequently make the link between maladaptive food choices and being in a bad mood (and vice versa), without taking the time to consider what caused their moods and negative thoughts in the first place.

2. Activity

The science of this one is also well established. Physical activity not only helps us maintain a healthy weight, but the resulting release of endorphins creates a much stronger and more sustainable level of happiness.

But we don’t need to torture ourselves in the gym to get these benefits – movement, any movement, has physiological benefits that can even trump the benefits of the ever-popular high-intensity activity.

3. Sleep

Getting adequate sleep is important for two reasons. First, there’s the energy balance aspect – how much sleep you get influences what you’re likely to put in your mouth and how much you move. If you’re not getting enough energy from one source, your body will be on the hunt for those “quick energy fixes” found in sugary foods, and will try to conserve energy by minimising movement.

The other reason a good night’s rest is so important is the mental aspect; poor sleep often leaves you feeling tense and foggy. It’s incredible how just one extra hour of sleep a night has positively impacted my clients’ outlooks, work performances and relationships.

4. Stress

Stress, like sleep, can negatively impact our metabolic hormones and cause a slew of health problems, including headaches, digestive problems, weight gain and is even associated with premature death.

Because many of us struggle to differentiate between problem-solving thoughts and unproductive worries, I help my clients engage in mindfulness-based stress reduction. This helps them see life’s problems as challenges and find a balance that suits their lifestyle and personality.

5. State of health

It seems like every other day we are given conflicting information about “how to be healthy” or “how to lose weight”. If you pay attention long enough, you start to see the same old articles being trotted out over and over. Using an education-based approach, I help people understand what to look out for (and what to steer clear of) when it comes to health-based information.

In addition, have you ever noticed how we seem to prioritise our body’s appearance over its health? I use a check-list approach to help my clients self-assess and ensure they prioritise any ongoing medical issues.

6. State of mind

We may not be able to control everything that happens in life, but we are in charge of how we experience it. Ask yourself, how does the way you perceive life affect your overall well being? Do you tend to give situations a positive spin, or make yourself miserable with the worst possible interpretation?

Also, stressful events or “switch flippers” can trigger maladaptive health behaviours – cookies, anyone? – that quickly spiral out of control. I’ll help you develop an action plan for when such events occur, and also map out your “life rhythm”, so you can ride the waves as they come.

7. Satisfaction

How satisfied you are with life in general – including your relationships, work and family dynamic – contributes to your ability to make transformative changes in your life. Unhappiness can drain your energy levels, change your perception and leave you with no motivation to break the cycle of unhealthy and self-destructive choices.

Learning to love your life again can give you the strength you need to break free of unhealthy habits and coping mechanisms.

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